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Day 8 – The Blame Game

“But it’s not my fault! She made me do it!”
“This is your fault, not mine!”
“He did it, not me!”

If you’ve ever had a child, this game comes pre-programmed. If you’ve had more than one child, the game comes in high-definition. First as a daughter and later as a mom, I’ve been a giver and a receiver of blame. Some of it was legitimate…most was not.

Basically it comes down to taking responsibility for ourselves – our actions and our words. Some of us “old timers” may want to blame our society for this epidemic of irresponsibility but all I have to do is look at Genesis 3:12 to see the first ones who played the Blame Game.

God is looking for Adam and Eve in the garden (after their little encounter with the serpent). They were hiding from God (kinda funny, really. You can’t hide from the One who sees everything). Adam said they were hiding because they were naked and God asked him, “Who told you that you were naked?” Adam steps up to the plate and takes personal responsibility for all of it. Not.

“The man said, ‘The woman you put here with me – she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.’”
And lovely wife Eve continues with “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

The Blame Game continues on with the stories of Cain and Abel; Abram, Sarai and Hagar; Jacob & Esau; Joseph and his brothers and on and on and on. It’s no different today. We get frustrated or angry about some affront and begin blaming someone or something. Today it could be the snow, the cold, the snowplows, or the government. Social media is full of vitriol against megachurch pastors, Oprah, the president, Lady Gaga, or whomever is your personal whipping boy. I’ve heard adult men blame their mothers for the choices they are making today. Come on guys. She may not have been the best mother in the world but let it go and be an adult. Take responsibility for your own choices in life. If you’ve got serious emotional issues, ask for help…but blaming others is not the way to mental health and healing. Playing the Blame Game only gives bitterness and resentment.

No more passing the buck. There was only One perfect person. We all make mistakes. We all make bad choices. Time to admit it and move on.

Let’s consider what James said in his New Testament book – “If any of you lack wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” So, today I’m giving up the Blame Game and choosing to ask for wisdom. Sounds like a great trade off to me.

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